FAQ's (you know, the uncomfortable ones)

Okay, I'll start.
The ones we have heard the most:
Is international adoption expensive? Of course it is! However, we end up with a beautiful baby.
Shouldn't that cost a lot? Exactly how much - it's hard to say. Including travel, postage (this adds up quickly), attorney fees, social worker fees, immigration documents, foster care for the baby for several months, medical expenses, etc. I would estimate it is costing us around $35k.

I have heard this one in all kinds of thinly veiled disguises:
Can you not have children? (gulp) There it is - the "mother" of all don't ask adoption questions.
Sure we are state approved to have children- we have even been to classes, been interviewed, our house inspected, pets inspected, jobs and finances evaluated, etc - what about you?
That's my response to people when I know they are being nasty.

However, for you, my friends and family....here's what you want to know....
We have had some difficulties conceiving and carrying to term "naturally." We have always wanted to adopt so we didn't investigate any medical interventions. This seems to be the right path for us. That does not mean that I think there is anything wrong with medical interventions, in fact, I think they are wonderful and amazing but it's not right for us.
On the money front (to all of you still hung up on the 35k from the previous question), with state insurance in the good ol' US - "medical interventions" will also cost you......a lot.